INTJ
introverted • intuitive • thinking • judging
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Anonymous said: Hi, since I took the mbti test a few months ago I've been pretty sure I'm an INTJ but recently i've been seeing things on this blog that I don't relate to as an INTJ. I am a teenager so is it normal that I could actually be a different type??

I’ve answered similar questions about anons who are too young to be typed here. And I suggest you too to wait until you yourself are sure about your personality. Because online test can only tell you what preferences you have on using your functions but the ranking has to be made by yourself in the end. And almost every time it’s better to figure out your functions on your own because you know yourself better than online tests do.

So wait some time until you’re sure about yourself and your personality and then try to figure it out. You can find tips on doing that here.

Yours,

Sandra

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Anonymous said: How common is it for INTJs to be asexual?

I’v answered a similar question here.

Yours,

Sandra

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Anonymous said: Is it common for INTj's not to know what to do in relationships? I say this because i realized that i have no idea what to do if someone wanted to date me. Not urgent.

Yes it is. It’s described as "Often clueless when it comes to romantic relationships." on this website and it’s often found on other websites / blogs / forums described in a similar way as well.

So I’d say that this is pretty common.

Check out my FAQ to search for tags like “romance” or “relationship” for further information and previous asks.

Yours,

Sandra

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Anonymous said: do you know any intjs with depression

I’ve already discussed the topic of INTJs + depression with fellow INTJs on this blog. Find those posts here.

Yours,

Sandra

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Anonymous said: is there an intp blog like this? I can relate to some intj stuff and love this blog, but it would be nice.

Hello dear INTP! I’m truly glad that you enjoy this blog!

Sadly I have to tell you that there is only an INFJ (infj-feelings) and an INFP (infp-feelings) blog like this. Both of those blogs are partner blogs of this one and they are led by my two closest friends.

Yours,

Sandra

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Anonymous said: Would an INTJ participate in protests? This is something I've been wondering about.

I’ve never participated in a protest. But I guess if this protest is seen as useful and important to the INTJ on a more or less personal level, he/she would participate.

Any thoughts / experiences on this one?

Yours,

Sandra

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Anonymous said: Hello ! (sorry for my english I'm french) I did the mbti test and I was scored Intj, I also read that intj female are very rare and the description explain some things happened to me, do you believe we INTJ female can find a great relationship with a men ? Coz I think my rather smart mind and my way to handle feelings are not liked by men,Or people generally coz we are not seems like normal women

uncommonone:

intj-thoughts:

Oh this question is just perfect. I’ve discussed the “phenomenon” of thinking women before on this blog. Check out my posts here.

Despite all the difficulties it is possible for female INTJs to find a partner. It might take some time and it’ll definitely not be as easy as for other types but it can work out just fine.

Yours,

Sandra

Sorry, but I think the idea that thinking women (in the Myers-Brigg definition of thinking) aren’t wanted by men is complete and utter B.S. Female Ts are not all that rare in general. Depending on who you’re talking to, they are between 30% and 60% of the female population. So even if you go with the low number you’re still talking about, roughly, 102 MILLION women with a thinking preference. Thus, the hypothesis that thinking women are so rare that they throw men off when men encounter them is ludicrous. Yes, feeling women are more common, but thinkers aren’t so rare that it’s surprising and/or off putting to encounter one. (Just as a side note, Ts are slightly more rare than Fs in general, making up 40.2% of the population vs feelers who make up 59.2% of the population)

Now, INTJs (regardless of gender) are one of the rarer types, making up between 1% and 4% of the population (depending on where you look, INTJs come in second after INFJ or third after INFJ and ENTJ). INTJ women are even more rare (between 0.8% and 2%). The rarity of INTJs combined with the fact that we tend to be more guarded and don’t like to let our emotions show could contribute to it being difficult to find a relationship. But make no mistake, the reason we have difficulties with relationships is not because we’re “smart.” It’s because we won’t be vulnerable. To have any real relationship (romantic or otherwise) one has to break down some walls and show some emotion. This is even more important for romantic relationships.

So next time you feel like throwing yourself a pity party because you’re a “thinking” woman who drives men away with her brains (btw, how insulting is that to feelers? you all do know they can be intelligent too, right?), maybe consider that there are other reasons. Maybe consider that you will need to show some emotion and let people in. Maybe consider that acting like you’re some sort of superior being could be what is actually driving people away. And if you are encountering men who are repulsed by you being a female T (because I’m sure there are a few), then I would submit that you’re looking for men in the wrong places. Because, I have honestly never encountered a man who didn’t like me because I was too “smart” for him.

I think that this comment is very useful and I want to add this to this ask. Thanks to uncommonone​ for sharing those perspective of yours. I’m glad I stumbled over this because I agree to a lot of what you’re saying. And I’d like to sum this up now.

Important things to remember:

  • Feelers can definitely be intelligent. [e.g. my dear friend Hana (infj-feelings) is one of the most intelligent persons I know]
  • If you’re a female INTJ and you think that you can’t find any partner, you have to get out there. It might seem like the hardest thing ever but in order to find someone you have to start looking around and doing something.
  • And last but not least: Once you’re in a relationship – open up and show your feelings to your partner. This is a great way to deepen your relationship and it’s also important for the relationship to work properly.

That’s it for now. Thanks for reading and thanks for sharing your perspective once again uncommonone.

Yours,

Sandra

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Anonymous said: Hello ! (sorry for my english I'm french) I did the mbti test and I was scored Intj, I also read that intj female are very rare and the description explain some things happened to me, do you believe we INTJ female can find a great relationship with a men ? Coz I think my rather smart mind and my way to handle feelings are not liked by men,Or people generally coz we are not seems like normal women

Oh this question is just perfect. I’ve discussed the “phenomenon” of thinking women before on this blog. Check out my posts here.

Despite all the difficulties it is possible for female INTJs to find a partner. It might take some time and it’ll definitely not be as easy as for other types but it can work out just fine.

Yours,

Sandra

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Anonymous said: I've done the personality test a bunch of times, and I keep getting INTJ. Sure there are a lot of things I do find fitting, but is it normal for an INTJ to actually be able to "acknowledge" emotions, at least to some degree? I am very clumsy with them, and I still do prefer making decisions highly based on logic, making sure "emotional preferences" have as little effect as possible if they make no sense on a bigger picture, but it's not like I feel like denying them completely. (cont.)

(cont.) With emotions it just feels like they’re terribly immature and irresponsible, and will just run off if they get even a glimpse of daylight. But I constantly find myself wanting to figure out a way to “teach” those buggers how to behave, if that even makes sense. Thank you, if you have the time to answer!

I think that this is a very good way of thinking about emotions. The preference of the logical approach is a typical INTJ move but I think that you’ve been able to discover and develop your Fi (introverted feeling). You’re now considering it as something which has an influence on other peoples decisions and which can have an influence on yours as well. So I think of this as something very good! It’s not healthy to always deny having feelings. It’s way better to be aware of them, what they do and how the influence your behavior.

Yours,

Sandra

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Anonymous said: I asked my crush recently (he's an INTJ) whether he still with his girlfriend or not. He said that he couldn't answer it. What does that mean? He didn't want to answer it or just can't answer it? And what should I do about it? Thankyou so much.

Sadly I have to say that I don’t know what this means. Maybe he waas unsure himself about the state of this relationship. But I really can’t tell you what exactly this means… You’ll have to ask him personally, if you want an answer. INTJs are very honest. So ask him in a direct way what he was trying to say with this answer.

Yours,

Sandra

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Anonymous said: Is it uncommon for an INTJ to love to act? I am an INTJ, and I love to be on stage but in real life I am an introvert and quiet.

I’ve answered an acting question before. Find it here. You can also check out this tag I use.

Yours,

Sandra

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