INTJ
introverted • intuitive • thinking • judging
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Anonymous said: Is there a type that INTJs are commonly interested in? I am very interested in intelligent introverted types, mostly ISTJs, INTPs and INTJs as well.

Read through this text for information on this one. And you can check out this older post of mine in which I’m talking about the compatability of types.

Yours,

Sandra

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Anonymous said: Hi! I'm a 17 year old INTJ female. Every description I read states that INTJs are notoriously confident in their abilities and intelligence. I, however, find that I often struggle with my self confidence... Is this because of my age or do other INTJs also battle this lack of self confidence? bahh.

It can of course have something to do with your age, but I wouldn’t say in general that every single INTJ is confident all the time. It always depends on the subject and the situation. Some INTJs just aren’t as confident sometimes. So it’s nothing to worry about.

Yours,

Sandra

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catsandviolins said: In regards to the music posts- I am always picking things apart and looking at everything from different angles, often at the same time. This helped me a lot when I was writing music analysis papers. Since there is also emotion added I find it has a special beauty to it. It was interesting to figure out why a piece of music might sound good but be boring to listen to (often due to lack of emotion). For me, the difficulty to express emotion gave me a different approach to the emotional aspects.

Thanks for adding your own thoughts to this topic!

Yours,

Sandra

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pearl-princess said: This is in response to the music post: I can def relate with the anon! Also, aside from picking apart the music, I tend to visualize it too, like I’m creating music videos or a narrative in my mind. And I have to put the song on repeat to perfect the visualization. However, I can get so into the music, the analyzing, and the visualization that I literally lose touch with reality. When I snap back I wonder how in the world 20 minutes went by, haha~

Thank you for telling us about your experiences concerning this issue!

Yours,

Sandra

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Anonymous said: Hello. Do you think INTJs are more prone to maladaptive daydreaming? Me and my INTJ friend both do it.

INTJs often feel detached from the world around them. This is due to Sensing being relatively unimportant in the INTJs function stack. So yeah… I’d say that daydreaming is rather common.

Yours,

Sandra

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Anonymous said: Basing on my experience; sometimes, when an INTJ gets confident enough to share their knowledge with others, some people might start to treat them like the so-called walking-and-breathing-libraries. Good enough as a source of information, but still hard to accept as a friend.

I haven’t really experienced something like this before but I guess that this can happen to INTJs… Thank you for sharing this little thought / experiecen of yours!

Yours,

Sandra

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Anonymous said: I'm a teenage girl INTJ and I haven't been in a relationship yet. It's not that I'm against having one, but I haven't met anyone that has sparked my interest. My friends and family however always questions me about it, it's gotten to the point that they think I'm asexual, a lesbian, or just a bitch because I have turned down anyone that has asked me out. Do you have any advice for my situation?

Just stick to yourself and don’t be bothered about what your family is saying about you. Don’t let them push you. It may take a long time but I think that your guy will come along eventually.

Also: You can tell them about me and many other INTJs out there. I’m 20 and my 17 year old sister has now got a boyfriend while I’ve never really had anyone. But I’m fine with it and most of the time I don’t really care. Others can say whatever they want. I don’t plan on getting myself a boyfriend just for the sake of having one.

Yours,

Sandra

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Anonymous said: I think, in a way, me being an INTJ changes the way I listen to music. I always find myself getting completely lost in the rhythms, harmonies, melodies, layers, vocal nuances, percussive rudiments, etc., and I'm always the most at peace when I have music playing. I decode and decipher every piece of any song I'm listening to, and it calms me down. Maybe because it gives my mind something to focus all of my (many) thoughts on? Do you think it has to do with analytical INTJ-ness? Or is it just me?

Could be just you but I don’t know much about how other INTJs usually listen to music… So if anyone wants to leave a comment on that topic, feel free to do so!

I’d also like to add that I was reminded of playing the violin when reading through this. When playing the violin I always am so concentrated that I can forget about everything bothering me in everyday life. I dive into this strange state of mind in which I’m completely focused on the music. Once I start thinking about what I’m doing right here, I make mistakes. So it’s more or less impossible to give too much thought to playing the violin and that is a very freeing thing.

Yours,

Sandra

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Anonymous said: I always felt outcast as an INTJ woman and this blog makes me feel better about myself. It's been a great tool for learning about my personality and reminding me that I'm not abnormal.

That it’s just nice to read! Thanks for sharing this personal snippet of your thoughts!

Yours,

 Sandra

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discordianinspirit said: In response to post/97161569212: If he drops hints like that again, just outright ask him to explain why he's bringing it up and see where that leads. If it's due to jealousy, which seems pretty probable based on the info given, then there's a trust issue that needs to be addressed, and the problem is really with him. Nobody should have to quarantine themselves from friends of the gender(s) they're attracted to just to make their partner feel secure in that they don't have any competition.

Thanks for adding your thoughts to this post!

Yours,

Sandra

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raxhael said: We just had a professional development meeting at my job about types. There are 3 INTJs in my office of 12 people. We are the three people who always bump heads. This knowledge made us much more understanding towards each other. I think my FP coworkers should be concerned about us joining forces. Understanding types really does help with communication. Just thought I'd share.

Thank you for sharing this short story of your life. I think that the knowledge  and understanding of personality types can help a lot in situations at work!

Yours,

Sandra

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A reaction on this post by corporalsassy: “that happened to me too. I fell for my best friend and I was angry at being “defeated” for weeks. You’re absolutely not alone.”

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Anonymous said: I can’t tell whether or not my partner is trying to hint to me that he dislikes that the majority of my friends are male. I feel like he may be, because he has stated things like “I try not to be friends with many girls.”, or “Most guys are hoping for something more when they’re friends with a girl.” This bothers me because I’m rarely interested in anyone so I’d like to avoid hurting his feelings in any way.

Hm… This is a difficult situation because I think that he won’t really believe you if you tell him that you aren’t interested in any of those friends of yours. Maybe it’ll help if you kind of remind him everyday that he is the special one for you. I can’t predict if this is really going to help, but you can try. Other than that it might be an idea to get some girlfriends for the friends of yours. I don’t know how to do that but it would stop the jealousy at least a little. You can also try finding friends who are girls… But that’s not too easy either.

I’d at least try to talk to him about this and make clear what you’re feeling and what’s going on and that you don’t want him to be jealous or bothered or angry in any way…

Yours,

Sandra

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thebestbatmanandrobinyouknow said: A comment about the ENTJ/INTJ anon (you can post this public). But I think there's a between, that you neither introverted or extroverted. I do not remember the word, sorry. But I think we should bring awardness to that point where some is just in the middle.

Thanks for adding your thoughts on this to the this post!

Yours,

Sandra

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Anonymous said: I am an INTJ, and I got feelings for one of my closest friends and I feel as though he has won. Like I've been bested by him. Is it normal for INTJs to begin to have feelings for a person and then feel as though that person has triumphed over you?

Uhm… To be quite honest. I don’t know and I myself have never experienced such a thing… Anyone out there who can relate to this?

Yours,

Sandra

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